Introduction

Do you often make choices only to spend hours worrying about them afterward? Do you feel pressured to go along with others just to avoid an argument? Imagine if the people in your life didn’t immediately judge what you were saying – maybe you could actually have a conversation.

How to Cut Through the Noise

Don’t React Immediately: Try not to feel mad or guilty about what the other person is saying. Instead, observe their expression and listen first. This might feel challenging, especially if you want to respond quickly, but taking a moment gives you a better chance of being heard.

Take Time to Share Your Feelings: Reflect on what you want to say, then express it clearly. Asking questions can also help guide the conversation. Here’s an example to try:

• State Your Feelings: “I feel angry that I am being judged.”
• Make a Request: “Please don’t judge me. Let’s discuss our perspectives.”
• Explain Your Perspective: “I understand you’re concerned, but I would appreciate having my thoughts heard and my opinion valued.”

By following these steps, you can encourage a more open and understanding conversation.